RIP Roberta

Roberta died today.


This morning she  was radiant and confident as she facilitated a seminar in the style which she has made her own.  I have never seen her so radiant, even at the Australasian Facilitators Network last November.


This afternoon she drove south to facilitate a meeting for Alcoa.


She never made it back home.


She was an inspiring leader and a wonderful friend – so warm yet so vulnerable.


I will miss her…lots.


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Our 35th Anniversary!

Today is Rob’s and my 35th wedding Anniversary. 35 years ago today, on a sweltering summer day, we arrived separately at Christchurch in Claremont to pledge our vows before family and friends.


How far we have travelled since then!


Never did we dream of the family we’ve created through our love, or of the road we have travelled: not always smooth, in fact sometimes darned rocky, but we have always remained connected at a deep level.


We treated ourselve with a meal at Frasers Restaurant in Kings Park. Very expensive, but sitting there in the twilight beneath the huge old peppermint gum, gazing out over the lights twinkling across the Swan River, reminiscing over times past, we wouldn’t have changed a thing.

Arthur – Email from Elwyn

Hi everyone,


I was lucky enough to spend a few days with Judy and Arthur about a month ago. I hadn’t met him before so this was a special time indeed.


Attached are some photos of them both, along with Arthur’s son, whilst we had a drive past the coast east of Plymouth. The church in the background was where the founder of Albany (and hence WA) came from so there’s a nice WA flag with the black swan inside. We also had a sunday lunch at the Royal Plymouth Yacht Club, I must have been the only person there under the age of 50!


I’m going to Arthur’s funeral on Monday (18th July) so will be representing the Australian side of the family.


It has certainly been a rocky past week or so here, with the London bombings as well, but things will settle down soon I’m sure.


Love from Elwyn

Dusky Dolphin Rebirth

Well, the day finally arrived. Strangely, the first pictures you will see when you click on the link below happened on the same day that Tom arrived here – 25th February! Rob, Jeanette and Elwyn went to the sailing club where Dusky Dolphin was on a stand in one of the painting sheds. The painter had finished his work, having helped us to decide on a new colour scheme for this usually-water-born part of our family. Rob need some help to haul the windvane into place, and generally tidy up to be ready for putting Dusky Dolphin into the water the following Tuesday.


Next you can see her in the travel lifter, a very strong machine that carried her 7-8 tons like a light-weight before gently lowering her into the harbour. After checking that there were no leaks in her hull, we started the engine and motored around to one of the jetties. Here we had to tie her up firmly, so that the crane could lift the mast up from the cradle where it had lain for the past few weeks, and carry it back so that we could bolt in onto the deck once more. This was very nerve-wracking! Fortunately yet another of the very capable workmen, who we are fortunate enough to work on our boat, was on hand to make sure that all was done properly, and ask us to help when he needed it. Once that was finished, we motored back to Dusky Dolphin’s pen.


The last photos are of our boat anchored in Warnbro Sound. Rob steered our dinghy in a circle around the boat while I took pictures of the new colour scheme and completely different dolphin image. We were very pleased with it all…

Tom @ 3 Weeks

Well, Tom is 3 weeks old now. He and his parents have had a pretty busy, sleepless time getting to know each other, but I detect some calmness coming into the relationship. Blaine sounds stronger, and Tris more confident. Thinking back to when Rob and I brought Jeanette home from hospital when she was about a week old, I remember how terrifying it was. On the few occasions that she slept, we woke her to make sure she hadn’t stopped breathing. And when she got a cold after a few weeks, we worried that she might catch pneumonia. The doctor laughed at us, of course.


Sometimes I wonder if our children grow up despite their parents!


But seriously, it’s so important to love them, to love them enough to let them go so they can flourish as they were born to do, always knowing that they can come back to us when they need to.


I’ve given myself some time today to put all the photos we have to date on the web site. Take a peek at the Photos section!

Welcome to the World, Thomas Jeremy Campbell

Thomas means “Twin”.


Tristan called me yesterday to broadcast the happy news: Blaine had given birth to Tom at 0850 on Friday, 25th February! He weighed 8lb 11oz, and was 53 cm long – obviously he had been extremely well fed in the womb! Blaine had been in labour for 12 hours, and Tristan had been there the whole time (except when he fainted from hunger), so they were very relieved when a perfect bouncing boy emerged…


Of course he is beautiful, especially ‘cos he’s the very first grand child in both families. Blaine’s Mum, Penny, is as excited as I’ve been:-)


We’re off to the hospital shortly to see them all, and hopefully give Tom a welcome hug!


Grandma Wendy

Tiger’s Trauma

Elwyn’s cat, Tiger, was savagely attacked by an aggressive dog, something like a huge pit bull, as she snoozed in our front yard enjoying the last of the daylight. It was early in December 2004, and I was working in our home office at the front of our house, keeping one ear out for Tiger because she is nearly blind. Suddenly I heard screaming. Now our yard is surrounded by a high brick wall, so people don’t normally come in unless they are visiting us. So I assumed that the noise was coming from the street. I was wrong. The sight that greeted me when I raced out to see if I could help was shocking. There was Tiger, on her back on the front path among the trees. A huge dog held her abdomen in its jaws and was trying to kill her! The screaming was coming from a lady who I had never seen before, who was trying to get Tiger out of the dog’s mouth, and from a man who I had never seen before, who was trying to pull the dog away – bit difficult as it wasn’t even on a lead.


Well, I went straight into the protective mother mode, and roared at the man to “Get that dog out of our yard!” He started to beat the dog then, and eventually forced it to let go Tiger. Tiger scurried into a corner and sat there in shock. The lady’s arm was a mess of cat scratches, with one deep wound right up her fore-arm. The path was covered in blood. I looked out the front gate to see where the dog was. The man had it on a lead by then, and told me that the dog wouldn’t come into the yard again.


Although I could see that the lady needed medical attention urgently, I knew that I had to get Tiger to the vet immediately. I suggested to her that she get to hospital, then raced into the house to grab the cat cage and then ventured to see how Tiger was. She was in shock, but did not seem to be bleeding as much as I expected. I picked her up as gently as I could and placed her into the cage. Once that was shut tight, I knew she was safe and could find our other cat. I glanced around the front yard to see where Mittens had got to. A small “Meow” from up one of the trees told me where to look. She was clinging to the bark of a she-oak, about 5 metres off the ground. As she is not blind, she must have seen that monster run into the yard in time to get away, unlike poor Tiger. She was shaking. Now that the dop had gone, she looked down at the fall below her and froze. What was I to do? I HAD to get Tiger to the vet as soon as possible, but I couldn’t leave Mittens there – she might fall in her frightened state. I ran over to the base of the tree and reached up my arms to her, calling “Mittens” in as gentle a voice as I could muster. She looked down at me. I called her again. Thank heavens she began to shuffle down the tree, then fell. But I was ready and caught her. I gave her a quick pat, put her inside, grabbed the car keys and shut the front door. Tiger was still in the cat cage, eyes wide and not really there. I put her in the car and drove to the vet’s, trying to keep to the speed limit.


As I drove I put my mobile on hands-free and called the vet to tell them to be ready. The nurse started to tell me that I did not have an appointment and couldn’t come. I screamed then that this was an EMERGENCY. When I arrived at the vet’s, the nurse gently took Tiger and I into the surgery so that we wouldn’t upset everyone else in the waiting room. I was in tears of worry by then. Greg, the vet, came in and did a quick examination of Tiger as I told him what had happened. “It’s a miracle she’s alive. I think her round tummy saved her, you know.” Funny how things work out – we’ve been trying to diet her for years! He swabbed her wounds clean, gave her various injections and said “We won’t operate unti, tomorrow. Do you want to take her home tonight?” Of course I did! Although she still wasn’t responding to anything, I knew that taking her home and giving her lots of love was the best thing for now. As Greg carefully put her back in her cage, Rob called on my mobile. He had just got home and found the front path covered with blood and naturally was very worried. I told him what had happened.


I had Tiger home again very quickly, and Rob and I set up her rug in our family room, and called Elwyn to tell her what had happened. She came home a little later.


It was a long night.


Tiger survived the night, and I took her to the vet’s the next morning for the first of many, many visits. She spent the day there, being checked out, operated on and prepared for her long convalescence. She came home that night, and seemed a little more alert. It wasn’t until the next day that she began to have trouble.


Her entire abdomen was wounded and deeply bruised. She was in agony, especially as it began to swell and necrose. By the time Elwyn left for her month’s holiday three days later, Tiger had retreated to Elwyn’s room and wasn’t moving much. None of us spoke the words, but we weren’t at all sure that Tiger would be with us when Elwyn came back. Elwyn gave her a big hug before she left for the airport and tried to hold back her tears. We began the long stint of nursing Tiger back to health.


Rob made one of his perceptive comments that her attack was the equivalent of a person being mauled by a lion!


She needed hourly pats from all of us to keep her connected with the world, and each morning I would creep into Elwyn’s room expecting to find her dead. She couldn’t move and wouldn’t eat. We had to lift her head to get her to drink sips of water. Two days after Elwyn left she was almost gone. I had to accept that she had the right to choose to leave us. That night, I spent some time with her, telling her how much we all loved her, but that we respected her right to leave if she wished. I remembered when she had found us in Kings Park 14 years ago. As Rob and I had walked past some bush, a kitten emerged and followed us, meowing. I couldn’t leave it there, and bundled it up in my skirt to take home safely across the busy roads. She went straight to Elwyn’s lap. When our vet examined her, he said that she had just had kittens – she was still a kitten herself! We never found her kittens. She spent some months at the vet’s surviving a uterine infection and cat flu before she came to live with us.


Now we might lose her.


I gave her one last hug and bade her farewell. I didn’t sleep much that night, and my pillow was wet. Next morning, I dreaded going into Elwyn’s room. I peeked in. She was still with us, and raised her head just a bit from her rug! I raced over to hug her, and she actually looked at me. Some time during that long night, she had decided to stay. Thank heavens.


I was happy to take her for her daily checkups at the vet’s, as she slowly began to move. Her abdomen was unsightly as the skin died and sloughed off, and the dead tissue underneath oozed fluid all over the floor. I was glad to clean up after her as she began to move out of Elwyn’s room occasionally, and we carried her bowls of food and water around after her to tempt her to eat and drink. Rob helped when he was home, and was glad to pay the vet bills.


When Elwyn came home, a month later, she greeted her little furry friend – who had been a faithful friend to her for half her life – with a huge hug. And the vet said that it’s a miracle.


The only difference in her now is that she’s glad to be alive; she no longer suffers the stress that used to make her sick in the tummy. She purrs a lot. She’s a house cat now. She took a long time to venture out into the yard where she had been so savagely mauled, and only goes there when one of us is around.


Our lovely Tiger has survived:-)

The Yacht “Dusky Dolphin”

We bought Dusky Dolphin in August 2000. Our plan was to use the yacht to go sailing, to practice what we had learnt during a training over the previous year. We had absolutely NO IDEA how much the sailing, and the people who go sailing, would fill the void left in our lives with our children leaving home!


You will see from the photos in the Photo Gallery that we have made many wonderful new friends. And we have made new connections with old friends, both ours and our children’s, through sharing time with them on the water at at places that Dusky Dolphin can take us. Rottnest, which we have only visited by ferry and plane only a few times in our lives before 2000, has become a very favourite place. To approach this island from its bays is so different to our previous experience. We sail across the 10 miles between Fremantle and the island, usually in ideal conditions, and anchor or moor in one of the bays. Usually we stay for at least one night, and enjoy the clouds as they pass over us, the many birds that live there (including Rob’s favourite, ospreys – we are even getting to know individual pairs that nest on cliffs or on rocky knolls!), the sunsets (you can share some of the amazing sunset scenes in our photos), the stars as they peep out one by one (Rob always looks south for his favourite constellation, Orion, and I look north for the Pleides), the moon in all her phases (we watch the phases closely now, because they are such a strong influence on the tides), the rocking of the boat as we sleep, the sunrise (if we are awake early enough) and the patterns of light on the water. We go ashore in our dinghy, and take the bus or walk to the settlements for supplies or meals. Or we just enjoy wandering along the shore, sharing the beach with the many sea birds and waders who live there.


There are many other places that we enjoy – you are welcome to share them in the Favourite Places section under the Dusky Dolphin heading in the Photo Gallery.


We have also survived some truly terrifying times, such as the thunderstorm at Lencelin that sent lightening bolts down very close to our boat, and the strong winds that came out of no-where and almost blew our boat onto the beach, and the time when a storm surge smashed our boat into a jetty and put a hole in her side.


But, somehow, Rob and I have found a different closeness to each other and to the Earth than we enjoyed with our bush-walking and mountaineering. Being on the ocean, and always being conscious of the currents, the weather, the moon’s phases, the tides, and all the other factors that affect how the wind and the surface of the ocean move, has awoken a different way of being alert to our surroundings. As Rob so often says, “At least in the mountains we are safe when we get back to the hut. On the ocean, the ground moves, and we are only safe in harbour which can be a long way away when we get caught in bad weather!” Even when we are asleep on Dusky Dolphin, we will wake for a “different” noise, or a strange movement of the boat, that would never wake us on land. And we have learnt to trust each other’s abilities at a very profound level.


So, as well as filling that awful void that was left in our lives, sailing has filled our lives to overflowing with people, places and continuous learning about and loving of the ways of the blue water that covers most of our beautiful planet and the abundant life that the ocean sustains.